Who decides what you deserve? Who judges and decides what anyone deserves? What does it mean to deserve something? To deserve must mean to have earned it. Everyone will have different expectations of who you should be. Everyone will judge you differently, depending on their own rules and their own fears. This means it is literally impossible to live up to any ideal in order … Continue reading Am I deserving of love?
The only thing you can do is to accept the pain. When you resist the pain you are creating more pain. If you can accept that it is there, that it might be there for a while, it will help ease the resistance that is creating the pain in the first place. The resistance might be resistance to something that is happening, or simply old … Continue reading Perception of pain
In this quest for limiting beliefs it is easy to focus only on what you see as wrong, in order to fix it. But do not forget all the wonderful traits about you that you already love. Focus on those too. Do it in a detached way, where you see these parts as a representation of who you really are, but not a definition of … Continue reading The expanded experience of self
The masculine part is the do’er in you. The one who takes action and gets things done. The feminine part is the part that sits back and receives. If you are in a part of your life where taking action and doing plays a big part, the receiving part of it can be neglected. For most of you it is difficult to find this balance, … Continue reading The season of patience
Be who you are and all else will fall into place. Who you are is love. Who you are is good enough, perfection, endless beauty. There is nothing or no one else you could be that would ever be as good as this, who you truly are. Who you are is like a bespoke suit. Every single part of you is tailored just to the … Continue reading Be who you are
You believe you are incomplete. You seek to fill the void within. This void is not real, it is an illusion, and so it can not be filled. You are the bottomless pit. You have discovered this, no? Whenever you fill it with food or new clothes, the minute you are filled you start to look for the next thing. As soon as you are … Continue reading Filling the void with food
I try to control myself but I can’t. It seems to just make it all worse. But I fear the consequences of not controlling myself!————Are you some monster to be controlled? How can that work with the monster controlling the monster? If the one controlling is as damaged as the one he is trying to control, how can the result be of any value? You … Continue reading The monster within