Who decides what you deserve? Who judges and decides what anyone deserves? What does it mean to deserve something? To deserve must mean to have earned it. Everyone will have different expectations of who you should be. Everyone will judge you differently, depending on their own rules and their own fears. This means it is literally impossible to live up to any ideal in order … Continue reading Am I deserving of love?
In this quest for limiting beliefs it is easy to focus only on what you see as wrong, in order to fix it. But do not forget all the wonderful traits about you that you already love. Focus on those too. Do it in a detached way, where you see these parts as a representation of who you really are, but not a definition of … Continue reading The expanded experience of self
Be who you are and all else will fall into place. Who you are is love. Who you are is good enough, perfection, endless beauty. There is nothing or no one else you could be that would ever be as good as this, who you truly are. Who you are is like a bespoke suit. Every single part of you is tailored just to the … Continue reading Be who you are
I try to control myself but I can’t. It seems to just make it all worse. But I fear the consequences of not controlling myself!————Are you some monster to be controlled? How can that work with the monster controlling the monster? If the one controlling is as damaged as the one he is trying to control, how can the result be of any value? You … Continue reading The monster within
You are desperately seeking validation and appreciation. How can you expect someone else to validate you when you don’t accept yourself? Because you don’t. You just don’t. You want from him what you won’t allow yourself to be. You are all the things you see in him and love, yet you cannot love these things in yourself. So you create/attract someone to you that you … Continue reading Longing for that twin flame
How do I find this complete me?—————————-It is already there. You are already it. Stop searching and just open your eyes. You never lost yourself, you never left. You just closed your eyes so that you could not see yourself. All you have to do to see the completion that is you, is to open your eyes again. Truly see. To see yourself as all … Continue reading Am I complete?
I feel like I am not present in my own life—-The only way to inhabit your life is to be you. To become who you are. No one else can fill your life. Only you. Don’t be afraid to take up too much space, or to be to self centered. It’s supposed to be about you, you are the center. That is why everyone has … Continue reading Invisible in my own life