Shame is a burden you put on yourself. Shame is useless except as self-punishment. It is a way of controlling yourself through pain, except it doesn’t control yourself, it just makes you try to control yourself. When you feel shame it is because you think a part of you is wrong and bad. You seek to hide this part from others, so as to keep their love, to not have to lose their love. What you need to understand is…

Question: I’ve gained weight the past year or so, and I’m ashamed of how I look. How can I lose the weight? The way you feel about your creation is reflecting how you feel about parts of yourself. Your body is showing you how you feel about yourself. There are parts of yourself that you are shamed of, and that brings up pain. You create this pattern of eating so that you may experience this shame. You feel shame for…

There are certain traumas buried within you, certain feelings that you don’t want to feel because it hurts too much. Normally you are very good at not triggering yourself to feel those feelings, you control yourself and your conditions so that you don’t have to feel that way. But when you do let go of control, which for you usually involves eating what you have labeled bad foods, these feelings come to the surface. The feelings that you have buried…

My sister keeps criticizing everything I say and do! How do I deal with her? Part II: Why do you not respect yourself? What is so wrong in you that you do not deserve to see yourself as good enough? What is so horrible in you that you do not deserve your own complete acceptance and love? Could it be that there is nothing wrong? Could it be that you are simply refusing to accept your own perfection? Could it…

When I think about being free, really free, it makes me want to cry! I feel relief and want to cry, I feel happy and want to cry. Why all this crying? Crying is a release of emotions. Some things are hard to deal with in the mind only, and they leave imprints in your heart, both emotionally and physically. They leave imprints of pain all around your body. The crying is a physical release of this pain. This release…

Society has so many rules for you. Rules to make sure you don’t believe too highly of yourself, and thus find your own power. It is easier to control a crowd who believe they are powerless, then it is to control those who know they are free and powerful. By giving in to your shame you are giving in to those who want to control you. By feeling shame for who you are you are allowing the rules of society,…

I find myself looking for approval from others. How do I get rid of the ego that needs approval all the time? You don’t get rid of the ego, you accept it and make peace with it. The ascension is not about removing parts of you, it is about finding acceptance and love for ALL parts of you, so that you can own who you are and finally integrate all parts into you and BE the completion of who you…

Here is an opportunity to forgive the part of you that judges others. Because you do. It is also a way for you to forgive who you used to be. There is no need to be ashamed of who you used to be and how you used to see your reality, for she has brought you to this point.  You have a new set of rules for yourself, to be accepting and loving of all that happens, to never feel…

Making mistakes and the shame of others knowing I made a mistake?—-You never really make those mistakes. When you perceive you have made a mistake it is a reflection of your beliefs. The reflection is of who you believe you are. You believe you are flawed. You believe you make mistakes. You believe making mistakes is wrong and so you feel shame when others see you doing this. You believe they now can see how you are not deserving of…