When others don’t follow the rules you have agreed upon, it makes you insecure. Rules make you feel safe. They give you an opportunity to feel accepted, and give you a measurable way of knowing if you are good enough, or not, and how good or how bad you are. When you don’t follow the rules you feel a lot of guilt, believing it makes you unworthy and unlovable. When others don’t follow the rules you believe they are also…